Groomed to Perfection

Groomed to Perfection is a story about an ‘ordinary female’ who lived half of her short life in extraordinary circumstances and all in the pursuit of ‘Love’. This is a historical fiction tale about power and control, engineered by a malignant narcissist. Groomed to Perfection aims to be an exploration of victim’s experience during intimate partner violence. It was funded by Arts Council England and National Lottery Good Causes, in partnership with Brighton Theatre Royal and BRIT School and the stage version was used as a community outreach resource in theatre’s. Like all art it does not aim to be perfect. It’s female characters do not aim to be perfect either.

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DRAMATIC PODCAST OF DESPERATE MEASURES

Groomed to Perfection is told by a female over 36 hrs of her life while she navigates the tactics her abuser uses to creatively and coercively control her.

Male violence against women and girls rose by 37% in the UK between 2018 and 2023

1 in 12 females will be a victim each year (with that number estimated to be higher)

Child sexual abuse and exploitation rose by 400% between 2013-2022

Almost half of all suicide attempts in the UK are linked to domestic violence

To anyone in immediate danger please call 999 and for more information see the safeguarding links.

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He told me he is madly in love with me

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'It reminded me how blind we are when we fall in love and make excuses for horrible behav-iour. I didn’t even know what Gaslighting and Love bombing were but I have had it happen to me so many times. I have probably been at risk before and not even realised. THANK YOU for the workshop’.

Audience member of the play
“Tonight was mind-blowing. Groomed to Perfection literally took my breath away.”

Jo Gough CEO of RISE domestic violence charity
‘I can not stop talking about Groomed to Perfection. It reminded me of my ex boyfriend. Every girl should see it.’

Audience member of the play
Kirsty was so great in the play. I was really impressed with the story too. It was the best twist I think since I read Gone Girl many years ago and these days I'm not easily twisted by a plot! And it's so interesting to ex-plore such a well-known era from a female perspective for effing once. I'm glad she took a stand and didn't wa-ter down the script. Teaching girls to embroider will not save their lives. And the fact that she delivered such hard-hitting content with thorough support was the perfect balance. We thank her so much for involving RISE and for considering so carefully the need to handle the issue of domestic abuse with sensitivity.

Alex Hales female working in VAWG sector